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Sports Romance & Romantic Suspense With a Psychological Twist

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Get Healthy Blog Hop


Alex CavanaughStephen Tremp, L. Diane Wolfe, and Michael Di Gesu have teamed up for the Get Healthy Blog Hop!


Bummed about being fatigued all the time? Not feeling as fit as you'd like to be? Here is a Blog Hop that can help us make 2013 a year that we can  get healthier.

The Objective: Share with everyone something you have done that affected your health in a positive way. 

I just attended my 20 year college reunion over the weekend, and I was amazed by how fit my peers looked. What am I doing wrong? I've always been a tall, athletic woman, and I know being thin isn't in the cards for me, but I'm displeased by some recent weight gain.

Change is HARD, and one change I need to make is to incorporate more mindful eating into my regimen. According to Lauren Todd, mindful eating is eating based on physiological cues instead of environmental or emotional cues.

After a long day of work I often plop down in front of the TV to eat my dinner. This is NOT mindful eating. We can't be mindful if eating while blogging, reading, or watching TV.


Here are some tips Lauren shares:

Tips Towards Mindful Eating

   Eat When Hungry.  More often than not, food restriction leads to subsequent binge-eating or, in some cases, serious eating disorders like anorexia or bulimia.

   Take Food in One Bite At a Time.  This process helps an individual to enjoy food and allow the body to process how full it is.

   Use All Senses to Focus on Food.  Eating slowly will allow recognition of tastes, textures, and smells, fostering a healthy relationship with food.

   Find a Good Place to Eat.  I admit that I have eaten more than a couple burritos waiting for the subway at the Park Street T-Stop. With all the commotion around me, it is difficult to truly concentrate on the food I eat. Snacking or dining in busy locations is not conducive to mindful eating.

   Say Good-Bye to Guilt.  Mindful eating is a way to reconnect with one’s meal in order to properly fuel one’s body. By eating mindfully, there should be no guilt associated with yielding to your body’s hunger.

Source: http://friedmansprout.com/2011/10/04/mindful-eating-connecting-the-mind-with-the-mouth/


We practiced mindful eating at my workplace by taking three minutes to eat three raisins. Try it some time! Mindful eating helps you recognize your hunger and fullness better, and reduces overeating.


Exercise has always been something I enjoy doing—especially swimming laps with friends. I know not everyone feels this way! I’m giving away an ebook of my New Adult swimming romance Streamline to celebrate my favorite form of exercise.

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Monday, May 27, 2013

#Omnilicious Twitter Party


Good things are happening at Omnific Publishing.

We'll host our first Twitter Party this Friday 5/31/13, starting at 7:00 p.m. EST.



Prizes and giveaways galore! Hop back on my blog on Thursday to snag my secret letter for the scavenger hunt.

Secondly, Omnific has a Facebook group you can join HERE. Check out giveaways, reviews, and other goodies from our growing group of authors! Omnific's latest release Tangled by Emma Chase is tearing it up, sitting at #1 in Erotica on Amazon's Kindle charts.

Thirdly, I want to thank author Carol Oates for her help with beautiful graphics like the Twitter Party one above. She's helping her fellow Omnific chicks with some kickass marketing tools!

Finally, come back on 5/29 for the Get Healthy Blog Hop, when I'll give away a copy of my swimming romance Streamline.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Author R.L. Griffin -- Review and Interview


It’s my pleasure to have author R.L. Griffin to the blog! She loves to write in the New Adult genre—one of my favorites. Following her interview is my review of her novel By a Thread.


Jennifer Lane (JL): Welcome to the blog, RL! I'm psyched to meet you at the New Adult Sleepover Weekend in December. How did you get started writing?

R.L. Griffin (RLG): I've been "writing" all my life, but I wrote my first published work while I had so much free time in law school. *sarcasm*


JL: You're an attorney, correct? How do law and writing fit together?

RLG: As an attorney you have to write long boring briefs and arguments that are very dry.  I love creating people's stories and so writing gives me the ability to do that.


JL: How do you juggle working, writing, and motherhood?

RLG:  Poorly.  I don't sleep very much.  I do try to make sure I'm the best mom I can be to my son when I can.  I do work long hours so I try to make up for that on the weekends and my husband and I take turn going to all of his sport practices.  My firm is really good about letting me do mom things.  I make it a priority.


JL: What drew you to write in the New Adult genre?

RLG:  I honestly think it’s such an interesting time in your life.  You are just getting all the responsibility of adulthood and dealing with major issues, but you still don't have tons of life experiences to make great decisions all the time.  It makes for an interesting story.


JL: What's next for you?

RLG:  Tension, the continuation of By A Thread comes out August 1 and I'm already working on the third book in the series.


JL: Can't wait! Thank you for stopping by and good luck with your writing.


By A ThreadBy A Thread by R.L. Griffin
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Picking Up The Pieces

Author R.L. Griffin and I will attend the New Adult Sleepover Weekend in Savannah, Georgia in December, 2013 (more info here: http://newadultsleepover.blogspot.com). When I discovered she writes my favorite genre of romantic suspense, I definitely wanted to read her novel! And I'm so glad I did.

Stella and Jamie were student-athletes at the same university. They fell in love and got engaged, then moved to Washington, D.C. to live together. Jamie starts a career with the ATF (Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms) and Stella is about to start law school.

Things seem perfect, right?

WRONG.

When Jamie dies in a car accident, Stella falls apart. Girlfriend's definitely hanging "by a thread" as she defers law school for an alcoholic bender into depression. I was horrified when a drunk Stella responded to grieving messages on Facebook from Jamie's friends, like:

hey d-bag, Jamie probably doesn't even remmdher your name

! Jamie's roommates Patrick and Billie take care of Stella and her dog Cooper, slowly nursing her back to health. She meets a bartender named George and eventually starts living again, though it's an empty life.

Stella's so low for most of the novel that at times it was hard to find her likable. Apparently she's quite beautiful since she draws the attention of many men despite her hard, rejecting shell. (Or maybe that speaks to the old adage that we want what we can't have?) Of course I wanted to throw her into treatment for her alcohol problem. ;-)

I did enjoy Patrick, who's like a brother to Stella, as well as George. Saint George puts up with all kinds of blow-back and bitterness from Stella, but he's always there for her, supporting her. Her law-school friend Millie is fun. I loved Millie's name for the line of muscle on a fit guy's lower torso: the arrow muscle. Yeah! Fiance Jamie's character is rather unknown, which makes me wonder if there will be a sequel.

My favorite part of the story was the mind-blowing ending. I didn't see that one coming! The return to events mentioned in the prologue gave me a better understanding of Stella and the parts of the story that earlier frustrated me.

Check out this New Adult journey of healing!

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Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Editing Has Made Me Crazy

Have I mentioned how much I love the editing team at Omnific Publishing? Jessica Royer Ocken has taught me so much about the right way to write. Mostly I'm grateful for this knowledge.

But there are times when I think I've learned too much, like when typos and grammar gaffes interfere with my enjoyment of a novel. I'll be happily reading a story with good plot and characterization but then halt, wide-eyed, with horror.


Blond is an adjective, BLONDE is a female noun!

A comma doesn't belong there, people!

It's effect, not affect, when describing a noun.

Editing know-how also drives me up a tree when friends make an error in language. I mean, really--who cares? I'm nowhere near perfect at the spoken or written word. Yet when a colleague says something like "It's the same for her and I", I want to shout "Her and ME! It's ME, not I!"

Today my psychotherapy client told me she "could care less" about something.

I had to restrain myself from correcting her with a maniacal "It's COULDN'T care less!!!"


I need help.

And I need validation. Has this happened to you? How has editing made YOU crazy?

Thursday, May 9, 2013

The Mother of All Blog Bounces

Happy Mother's Day! Please join Omnific Publishing authors as we celebrate our mothers on our weekly Thursday Blog Bounce.


Today we discuss how our mothers have influenced our writing.

With her encouragement and kooky sense of humor, my mother had an early influence on my imagination. She enrolled me in art classes before the age of five (too bad the lessons didn't stick!) My mom valued education and the power of the written word, especially for firing off letters to politicians who weren't doing their job! And, my mother is a lot of fun. I remember her driving me and my neighborhood teammates home from swim practice one night . . . for some reason she started making animal noises. We had a blast imitating chickens, rabbits, and wookies.

Here's an example of a movie that cracks us up (Every Which Way But Loose):



Finishing a novel takes bountiful hard work and perseverance--qualities my mother instilled in me. The fact that she's still working four days a week in her seventies is testament to her work ethic. And she definitely had to be persevere to overcome dysfunction in her family of origin.

I can be an anxious perfectionist, but my mom has helped me take myself less seriously. When I was grumpy after a long day of school and two swim practices, she asked me if I wanted to quit the sport. That question freed me up to make sure I was swimming for the right reasons. When I beat myself up after disqualifying a relay at the NCAA championships, she asked me if I would remember that race in one year, which helped me chill out. My mom is great at putting things in perspective.

Currently, my mom probably knows more about my psychologist career than my writing career. She used to enjoy reading fiction but she's a little too hopped up on thyroid medication to sit down and finish a novel these days, ha ha. I know she's in the background supporting me, though.

Now bounce over to these participating authors to check out their awesome moms!

Monday, May 6, 2013

A New Way to Use the Treadmill

Bored with your workout routine?

Check out this fun idea to spice up your workout!

I'll be back on Thursday for the Mother of Blog Hops.

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Insecurity and Judgments: Writing Hiatus

I almost missed ANOTHER month of the IWSG! But I'm posting during a break in psychotherapy clients.


Thank you to Ninja Alex for developing this supportive author meme.

I've been embroiled in some good stuff with my psychologist career lately, so writing/blogging has taken a back seat. My fourth novel has been under contract for a while with Omnific Publishing, and I can't wait to start with the edits. I finally started writing my next novel -- a New Adult romance with sports and politics -- but I only have about 500 words so far.

I could get really insecure about this hiatus in writing, saying things like:

"I should have started another novel by now."

"The NA genre is hopping and I should strike while the iron's hot."

"Maybe I'm being lazy."

But I don't think these judgments will help anything. Instead, I'll use the NONJUDGMENTALLY mindfulness skill. According to Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., the nonjudgmentally skill is:

* See but DON'T EVALUATE. Take a nonjudgmental stance. Just the facts. Focus on the "what", not the "good" or "bad", the "terrible" or "wonderful", the "should" or "should not".

* UNGLUE YOUR OPINIONS from the facts, from the "who, what, when, and where".

* ACCEPT each moment (this doesn't mean you like it or agree with it).

 To practice this skill, I'll examine the facts, like "I feel anxious that I'm not writing frequently right now" or "The psycho part of my psycho author career has needed more time recently".

Have you experienced an ebb and flow in your own writing career? How do you deal with judgments and insecurity?
 


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